Seventh Generation Twitter Party! Join me for #7GenBabyFest

As most of you know, life has been busy with a new baby over here. For some reason, all of my kids have been born in colder months- November, February, and now the end of October (hmm…). While I don’t mind not having to deliver in the hot sticky summer, the cold weather inevitably brings an issue with each baby- what products to use on their skin?

Each of them seemed to be dryer than the first, and selecting products to bathe and use on them in the first place is enough to send any mother into nervous breakdown-mode. What’s safe, what isn’t, what do I need to know, WHICH ONE DO I USE?

Luckily for you, Seventh Generation and The Motherhood are hosting a Twitter party to discuss everything you need to know about ingredients, scents, packaging and labels on baby personal care products like shampoo and lotion.

#7GenBabyFest Twitter party details

When: Thursday, December 13, 1-2 p.m. ET

Where: We’ll be on Twitter – follow the #7GenBabyFest hashtag to track the conversation. You can see the details and RSVP via this Twtvite: http://twtvite.com/7genbabyfest2

Hashtag: #7GenBabyFest

Prizes: Seventh Generation will give away five total prizes. Four of the prizes will be gift baskets containing full lines of the Seventh Generation baby care and home care products. The final prize will be a baby massage class in the winner’s area. Winners will be chosen randomly from among participants who respond correctly to trivia questions.

Hosts: @theMotherhood, @CooperMunroe, @EmilyMcKhann

Other info: Seventh Generation’s website: http://www.seventhgeneration.com/

EVEN MORE FUN!

 

Following the party, you can also participate in an Instagram contest with Seventh Generation!! Beginning December 14, take an Instagram photo to illustrate how you practice natural parenting, tag @SeventhGeneration and use the #7GenBabyFest hashtag.

7 winners each day for three days will receive a Seventh Generation Baby gift basket. If you win, you’ll be contacted via Instagram with a request to share your mailing information.

Can’t wait to see you there!

3 Things I Didn’t Expect About Having 3

I still sometimes can’t believe I have three children. It seems that more often than not, most people have their kids closer together- somewhere in the realm of 1 1/2 – 2 years apart. Me, on the other hand… well, I needed time to recover! I actually wanted my second to be that distance from my first, but we had the hardest time conceiving her. Once she came, we realized just why we needed our bearings! This time around was a discussion for a few years coupled with a crazy lifestyle. But, since we were finally settled back in Georgia (or so we thought…) we decided we wanted another. After a year of grueling health issues for me, we were beyond blessed to welcome a new little boy this year.

Life has been interesting ever since. After a somewhat traumatizing post-birth experience, we are trying to juggle the holidays with a new baby. Even more interesting are the things I just didn’t expect the third time around.

There’s still no sleep

While he sleeps much better than my daughter ever did, he’s the biggest cuddler I’ve known- he loves to be held! Since this is the last time I’ll get these baby snuggles, I try to embrace the moments- even the longest exhausting ones. I’m not entirely sure if I thought I would have a few tricks up my sleeve for the first couple exhausting months by round three, but… not so much. Luckily, we’re coming up on week 7 here (SEVEN), and we are evolving into a bit more of a routine.

The amount of time it takes to get out the door

Seriously, I added one, not ten. But it seems to take about ten times as long for us to get out the door- and it’s not even just the baby! With the oldest being 7, he is forever remembering “just one more thing”. My 3 year old daughter (almost 4), forever brings an entourage of stuffed animals, purses, and accessories- “just to leave in the car”. Meanwhile, I’m throwing my nursing cover, a few diapers, and a change of clothes into one of my larger purses (with a stocked diaper bag that I throw in the trunk and rarely use) and bucking the baby into the carseat. By the time this is all accomplished, I’m exhausted- and I haven’t even started the car.

How much my family would grow

 And in so much more than numbers. Watching my kids with their new baby brother is one of the most amazing things I have ever experienced. It is truly astonishing to watch their own relationship as the older siblings evolve into an entirely new level. The usual bickering has often become playing together, or let’s go do this as mom’s busy with the baby. Or they will suggest that we all play a game together instead of waiting for us to insist on family time. Don’t get me wrong, the bickering is still alive and well, but there’s also an added dimension to each of my children now that our dynamic has changed.

Yes, this is one of the best pictures I have with my kids. They photograph much better than I do! How have your family dynamics adjusted over time? 

 

When Mom’s Away: 3 ways I know my family missed me

This past week, I attended Blissdom, a huge blogging conference with over 700 women (and a handful of men). I left my husband and my kids for a few days (I left Wednesday and returned Sunday). After the initial feelings of freedom, I also wrestled with the usual mom guilt of leaving my kids. I really don’t know if that ever gets easier, but at the same time, a few days away can really help you refocus and rejuvenate from the usual routine. Attending this conference was amazing for me, and I have so much to share once I can sift through it all and make some plans. But one of the best parts of my conference was coming home to my family.

3 ways I know my family missed me 

My house was CLEAN.

This was amazing. The toys were picked up, the playroom was (kind of) put together, and our bedroom was freshly painted. My husband truly went above and beyond, and even enlisted the kids to help! I imagine many of you are like me and this is a rarity. And one to be treasured.

My kids didn’t bicker once. 

I’m still in a state of shock over this one. When I came in the door, after they threw themselves at me, they each sat on one side of me on the couch, clinging for dear life. Typically, my kids bicker for where they’re going to sit, who gets to be on which side, who is kicking the other one… the list goes on and on. But last night, there was an hour of perfect harmony. Talk about Bliss!

My husband made dinner.

When we were first married, I did not cook. I had been a single woman who worked, went out, and loved takeout. Who needed to cook? Of course, as the years progressed, we added children, and my husband’s work days extended, it became apparent someone had to feed this family. It turned out that it had to be me (when can kids cook anyway??). Anyway, once I took this task on, my husband forgot that he knew how to cook. Seriously. But last night? I had a full meal waiting to eat when the kids went to bed, so it was a mini-date on top of it.

 

Sigh. It’s good to be home.

Porch Swing Stories: In These Small Moments

I am so excited to bring you my first guest of Porch Swing Stories. A few months back while searching for inspiration for my blog, I had a conversation with the lovely Nichole of In These Small Moments. Not only is she an extraordinary writer, but she is an inspiring person I am so thrilled to call a friend. Read on for the first installment of many, many Porch Swing Stories- and one that will surely be a favorite. 

Of course I hold my four-year-old daughter’s hand every day.

I take it into my own when we cross the street, when I help her out of the car, when I lead her into her bedroom for nap.

As I do with all of the things that I hold most dearly, I had memorized the feel of her hand in mine, the bits of chubbiness left over from when she was a toddler…a physical reminder that she is still, in so many ways, my baby.

Last night, as we went upstairs to begin our bedtime routine, she reached for my hand and something was different.

Her hand slipped into mine so smoothly and I was struck by the way it felt so lithe.

Her fingers wrapped almost completely around hand and I was amazed by how long and lean they’ve have gotten.

How did I not notice how her hand is no longer plump, but is now that of a young girl?

Where did the chubbiness go? When did those toddler creases thin out?

Had I blinked? Had I been distracted by all of the big and little responsibilities and endless business that fills our days?

The zillion trips to ballet class, Target, and the grocery store…the endless to do list…they have crowded out this change inmy daughter.

Noticing this change makes me wonder what else have I missed. What has slipped past me, unnoticed?

If I could summarize my wish for the upcoming year, it would be to be more present.

And last night, as I held Katie’s hand, I was reminded of the weight of that committment.

Because what could possibly be more important than that?

Don’t miss any of Nichole’s posts at her blog in these small moments or over at Babble Kid Scoop! Interested in sharing a Porch Swing Story? Email me at ashley {at} myfrontporchswing {dot} com.

Winter Perspective

The other morning, I was helping my son to get ready for school. To say I’m not a morning person is pretty much the understatement of the century. (I’m still not entirely sure why a 6 o’clock is necessary in the morning.) However, my six year old bundle of energy wakes up happily and is ready to face his day, chattering away over his breakfast. As we head outside to wait for the bus, I realized that once again, mommy forgot to heat up the car.

Oops.

So, bundled up, we headed out to the bus stop. Before I make it sound like we were hiking ten miles in a never-ending snowstorm, I should clarify we were heading two houses down to the corner. And it was 32 degrees outside.

Anyway, as we were walking, my son asks me why it’s so cold. Granted, as I find anything below 60 to be on the chilly side, I agreed with him. However, the fact that we had spent more than six months in Alaska- starting with the longest, darkest, coldest day of the year- coupled with the fact that we would see temperatures hit 60 that day in December, I had to laugh.

Grumbling about what was so funny, my son gave me a look that clearly said he thought I was nuts. So I said to him, “Don’t you remember last year? When you had to wear about ten layers of clothes to school that you peeled in and out of each time you went outside? We had to wake up an extra ten minutes early just to load you into your gear. After we dressed you in layers, we had to get the snow pants on top of your regular pants, snow boots over thick wool socks, then layer on your hat, gloves, neck warmer and coat.

Do you remember all.that.snow. on the ground… in your clothes… the hills you played on, how cold and wet you would get before coming in to be toasty and dry?

Or how about the fact that soup was a favorite snack after a long day, to warm you through. How we put on the fireplace each morning, and again each evening?

Do you remember going to school while it was still dark and coming home as it got dark again? How excited we got when we finally saw a bit of a thaw.. in June?”

By this point, I figured my son had long since stopped listening to me, simply nodding along in that way that six year olds seem to master. To my surprise, he looks up at me through a smile.

“Yes, mom, I remember all that. I loved to chase my friends in the snow, and my favorite was when we built forts. We loved when there were lots of sticks, too. It was nice when I came home out of the snow, because that was cold. Playing in the snow with my friends was so much fun.” He pauses.

“But mom?”

Looking over at him, laughing at the difference in our memories, I ask “Yes, honey?

Very seriously, he responds, “I know I said I was cold, but please don’t make me go to Alaska again.”

Out of the mouths of babes…

Memories Captured: Christmastime 2011

I am so excited to join in the sweet linkup hosted by Galit from These Little Waves and Alison from Mama Wants This.. Memories Captured. Since I adore Christmas time, and especially being back in Georgia, our Christmas Festival seemed the perfect memories to capture..

From pigtails and pony rides…

 

To big smiles and huge slides...

From hot apple cider and lots of sibling fun…

To visits with Santa showing the holiday’s begun.

From sibling bickering and fights to exciting outings and events, my children’s unique personalities shine through. 

My 6 year old son, filled with compassion and support, conviction and a penchant for argument,

My 2 year old daughter, loving as always, sweet as can be when not full of sass and attitude.

For all the blessings my husband and I get to enjoy this holiday season, nothing compares to these amazing creatures we get to call our own.

Participating in two excellent links!


Happy Thanksgiving!

Wishing you and your families a happy Thanksgiving. I’m grateful for all of the great friends, connections, and opportunities blogging has shown me the past couple of years. I’m even more grateful for the time I’m able to spend with my family. Wishing you & yours the best this holiday!

~Ashley

The Holiday Comforts of Home


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The holidays are once again approaching quickly- far too quickly, in fact! In the midst of endless sales, holiday shopping crowds, meal preparations and traveling families, the craziness of the season can quickly dwarf the enjoyment for many people. But despite the craziness, I still look forward to the holidays each and every year.

After my son’s first Christmas, we stopped traveling for the holidays. Between spending most of our time in airports and the endless stress of traveling, we decided we wanted to enjoy the season more and spend it at home. We treasured the holiday comforts too much to not enjoy the time. Having been in five states since he was born, and moving six times, it became even more important to maintain traditions each year.

To us, holiday comforts begin with tradition. One of the most significant traditions is when we begin the holiday season. We start the day after Thanksgiving with bringing out our Holiday decorations, bin by bin by bin. Revealing the holiday decorations that we have amassed through the years- and states- makes us smile while bringing our memories forward. Buying a new ornament each year is one of our treasured traditions, as well as telling the stories behind them.

As the decorations begin to fill the house, we begin our stories of “Remember When…” Remember when we go this ornament at the tiny little store in Virginia? Remember how we rushed to the store before it closed to not forget our yearly tradition of new ornaments on Christmas Eve in Florida? Remember when we were snowed in during our Christmas in Alaska and snuggled by the fire for hours, our kids in our laps?

Each year brings new things to do, new challenges to face. We have spent many years making a new place home just before the holidays, though that is now in the past. This year will be our first Christmas in our new home back in Georgia. We will string up the lights, put out the decor, bake the time-honored cookies. We will play the music, prepare the food, set up the tree. We will continue our tradition of new ornaments, hanging them delicately, one by one. But the most treasured of holiday comforts will be the stories we share amid the holiday tasks- reliving the memories we made while making new ones. Nothing can top that.

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The Magic Moments That Were Almost Missed

She pushed through the crowd, determined to make her way through. After all this time, mountains couldn’t stand in her way. Living her life through photographs and phone calls had gone on long enough. These past months crept by slower than a southern sunset, and she had had enough. Luckily, a summer full of wonderful memories made with her children saw her through…

Like the time they spent at the pool. The 276 pictures she took on various pool days throughout the summer were scattered through Facebook, mobile apps, her computer..

Or the trips to the playground. Watching her two year old daughter strive- and nearly succeed- at keeping up with her big brother was such an experience, particularly following last summer, when climbing a slide still required the help of her mom. Or the smile that were brought to her face when facial recognition technology thought her son was her husband– she often thinks the same thing.

Then there was the puppy. Oh, the puppy. Relenting to her five year old on the issue of a fish, she instead found herself leaving the pet store four hours later, puppy in arms. The little white furball had crawled into their laps, wormed her way into their hearts, and left in their car.

Shaking her head, she forged on, pushing until she was at the front of the crowd. Suddenly, the two children holding her hands dropped them and darted forward. She started to join them before hesitating, hanging back. Slowly, she raised her phone, focused in and clicked. Lowering it slowly, tears in her eyes, she stepped forward. Gathering the kids up in his arms, he met her halfway, his gaze never leaving her face. She flung her arms around him, embracing her family, knowing that this was a moment she would never forget. One thing absence teaches you is the importance of the magic of memories. For all that she missed him, she had been there, seeing the memories her children made.

But thanks to ThisLife, so would he.

ThisLife’s auto-magic technology enables families to ensure that digital “magic moments” are kept safe in one place – regardless of what they are or where they originate. It pulls photos, videos, text messages and anything else you store digitally – whether it’s currently housed in Facebook, Shutterfly, Instagram or other places – and organizes them into a chronological timeline. ThisLife helps families see those magic moments in context – in the timeline of their lives – and make it a part of the family story. My husband has been in Alaska for work for months, away from his family. With ThisLife’s timeline, he’ll get to experience our summer like he was right here with us.

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Back to school: First day of Kindergarten

Remember how I talked about the fact that I would not miss summer vacation? I lamented the long days and irritations that accompanied the seemingly endless days of summer. Kids bickering, boredom to fight, kids bickering…

You may also remember that I added a clause that reserved the right to bawl like the baby my little boy used to be when the first day of kindergarten came. See? I plan ahead.

This morning, I woke up in the middle of the night bright and early and started to prepare breakfast. I double-checked the backpack, ensured a full lunch was packed, and had his name tag ready to go. As I performed what will become the most regular of tasks for the very first time, I thought back to all the time that has passed, all the memories that have been made, and all the firsts he has had..

The amazement and discovery of his first year..

The entertainment and joy from his first friend…

The knowledge of growing with his first bed…

The expansion of love and family with his first sibling…

The fun and games with his first game of mini-golf:

The exercise of independence with his first day of preschool:

The courage, energy and excitement of his first soccer game

And now, the next step in his independent journey… his first day of kindergarten…

While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.
~Angela Schwindt

Please pass the tissues..