Finding routine in chaos- or not

HPIM0022.JPG Each time I have had one of my children (all three of them), we have moved merely months later. Throughout the pregnancy with my third, I would joke that it was “time to move again” since we would be having a baby. Never did I think that this would actually occur- ha! That’s what you get when you joke, right?

So, third baby in arms, we’re moving again. And then, as with everything with a subsequent child, you become hyperaware of details- how fast they grow, how quickly the baby stage flies by, how much things change in the blink of an eye. This, combined with the upcoming move, has really emphasized how little control of things I sometimes have – even if I wish it otherwise.

I had planned for 2013 to be rather formulaic. The very beginning part of the year would be developing a routine with the new baby, early spring would lead to work travel and blogging more, followed by more travel and networking throughout the year. This year, things would be organized, I would hone my focus and things would fall into place.

Ahem.

Now that we’re throwing a house sale, move to (yet another) state, and a new home search & purchase into the mix, I initially reacted in the way that any sane person would; I panicked. A creature of routine, this repeated sense of chaos gets downright exhausting. However, I suppose that the constant upheaval has, in a sense, become a routine in and of itself. And that is quite the adjustment.

So, I’m going to try to embrace the non-routine routine. I’m going to keep plowing forward, keep working harder, keep an open mind about the location. I’m going to try to enjoy the moments with my kids while balancing the work that I love doing and want to expand on doing. I’m going to load up my family and head to Texas. Tomorrow.

And I’m going to drink a lot of coffee.

How do you cope with big changes?


 

Comments

  1. says

    Wow! That feels like it came up fast. I’ll be thinking of you because I do not handle big changes very well. I worry the whole time until I feel settled. I think it is the fear of the unknown. I think the way you are handling it is admirable and will serve you well with this big change. Good luck!
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  2. says

    I think you are amazing to cope as well as you do. The last time we moved was 8 years ago when my oldest were 4 and 2 and I was a mess. It was not a move I wanted to make and I thought I would never be happy again. But we survived and I am happy even if I still feel like I am unpacking.

    All 3 of my children were born in different hospitals in different cities. A fact that makes me kind of sad (I have no idea why it makes me sad, but it does), but my children love it. They each feel like they have their own identity- my oldest daughter is the southern beach girl, my son is the city boy, and my youngest is the small town girl. Makes me laugh.

    Sending lots of positive vibes your way. I think Texas could be nice?

  3. says

    I can’t imagine moving with a new baby. We are just starting the process of looking for a new house and I’m already having a heart attack. Hope the drive goes well!

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