Appreciating my child

We so often hear that we need to treasure the moments, how fleeting time is. This has been a resounding theme in my life since the birth of my third child nearly twelve weeks ago. (Yikes. That long??) I have been striving to be here for all of my kids, and appreciate things that I may have overlooked before- and lately, especially with my oldest.

One of the things that has struck me is how very much my seven year old keeps growing up. Over the last few months, it’s been more and more apparent; litte things here and there. Oh, the bickering with his nearly 4 year old sister continues and I still stop to pick legos off of the floor, but in between, glimpses of the  young man he’s becoming are shining through. And for all the stresses and chaos of parenting I write, I too often forget to capture the good moments. As I break up the fifteenth argument after school, I marvel at the disparity between the overtired child he still can be and the helpful “big kid” that often shines through.

Last week we went to the grocery store. I usually try to only bring the baby along, or at least only two of the three, but I had everyone with me that day for just a quick few things. By the time we made it home, the baby lost his patience and wanted out. We all rushed inside and I went to change him. By the time I had finished, my oldest had brought in the bags and put everything away. I was stunned, and later, as I went to start dinner, tears came to my eyes when I opened the fridge and had produce tumbling out to greet me. It was such a beautiful mess, created from his desire to help.

His desire to help is always front and center. His kind personality shines through when I’m trying to make dinner and the baby is cranky and his sister is joining in. He sits next to the baby’s bouncer, making faces and singing songs while I throw dinner together or in the oven. He will open a juice box for his sister and pretend his asparagus is green beans so she’ll try it. Cleaning up toys before the realtor comes, helping his sister carry her stuffed animals- all 500 of them- up the stairs. All of these little things that mean so very much to me, that make our days run smoother, that make our family better.

All because of the thoughtfulness of a seven year old.

I am one lucky, blessed mama.

Comments

  1. says

    You are one lucky Momma.

    My oldest can also be a huge help with her younger siblings and I also have to remember when she doesn’t feel like helping that it is okay too. That it’s normal.

    And I think that 7 may be one of the most perfect ages in childhood.
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  2. says

    I love this. I’ve been noticing that juxtaposition with my almost 6 year old – the little kid he still is and the big kid that he’s growing into. It’s striking, isn’t it? It is so sweet how he helps and wants to help. And the produce tumbling out of the refrigerator! What a sweet boy.
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  3. says

    So very sweet. I, too, have a 7 year old son and it floors me how much he is growing and maturing and how much he’s been such a help lately, too.

    We are lucky, blessed mamas aren’t we?

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  4. Amy says

    I too have a son who is sweet thoughtful and kind. He is the oldest of my three boys and I believe God gave him to me first because I could not do it all without him. He is now almost 17 and is just as sweet now as he was when he was younger. You are blessed to have your little guy and I’m certain he will continue to be sweet and kind even through his teens and on to adulthood. You have done a wonderful job, obviously, give yourself a pat on the back because that doesn’t happen by accident! Way to go mom! :)

  5. says

    Oh you, this is beautiful.

    And I’m with you – the way they grow, the way their heart shines through everything. It’s just breath-taking.

    {This is my favorite line: “It was such a beautiful mess, created from his desire to help.” Love our bog kids.}

    xo
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